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How do you know when it is “real love”?

Updated: Jun 28, 2023

💘Valentine’s Day is here again, and the word LOVE is written everywhere you look. Often the word love is associated with strong feelings, but not always romantically; for example, “I love the Summer Salad at this restaurant!” or “I love my dog.”

Romantic feelings give a wonderful euphoria where you feel that all is right in the world, now that you have that special someone in your life. The trouble with romantic feelings is that just like a fire in a fireplace, it must be given fresh wood to burn (romantic actions and words) and oxygen, or it will go out. So, before you invest in romantic feelings you need to assess who you are and how this person fits in your life. There is a big difference between spending an evening with someone and spending a lifetime with them.

So, romantic feelings alone can’t be how we know it is “real love”. “Real love” motivates us to do what is best and to do what is right. I have been burnt by infatuation, maybe you have too. “Real love” sees your potential despite seeing your flaws and builds you up. This works both ways, you aren’t blind to their imperfections but you help them see what is wonderful about themselves. Tyler Knott Gregson puts it this way:

“Because of you, I can feel myself slowly, but surely, becoming the me I have always dreamed of being.”

This kind of love brings vision of what is possible along with wonderful feelings.

American poet Robert Frost said this about love’s passion:

“Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.”

Mutual passion is an important part in discovering “real love”, but it is more than physical desire; it is emotional and spiritual, reaching into the soul.

With real love there is such a strong desire that “For better or worse” isn’t a scary warning , but a statement of reality. No matter what else happens to me in my life, our love will remain strong.

If you have found your “real love”, and you are ready to say your vows to the one you love, let us help you!

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